Inactivity can show that you are not confident enough in yourself or in your beliefs to be able to share them, to some people at least.
So you know that thing that people do when they say that human interaction has been replaced by our phones? Or the fact that our social media addiction is comparable to drug addiction? Mhm, I know some people do that. It’s not hard to put down the phone. Or is it?
There is another cliché that bothers some people like, that Facebook friend that posts way too often about his/her personal life. After a small research and some surveys, some people admit that they’re one of those people that cringes every time that guy posts another post-gym selfie that looks exactly like the one he took last week (and the week before that). But why are we friends with these people? I think it is safe to say that almost everyone knows that if you don’t want notifications from an over-sharer, you can turn them off, or you can simply unfriend them. But we don’t. Why are we even on Facebook in the first place?
Everyone has similar reasons to be on Facebook: to belong, to connect, to exist. If this was not true, then there would be no purpose to having a Facebook account. If someone wanted to use Facebook to record personal memories only for themselves, they could just do it in a journal or in a folder on their laptop, right?
Of course, it can be difficult to figure out the motive behind someone’s Facebook post when it is personal or when it seems like you are invading that person’s privacy. She might be posting a selfie for other people’s attention, or to show that she is confident in herself. He might be writing about his problems because he wants sympathy, or because he wants to let others in similar situations to know that they are not alone. When one does not really understand the motive behind someone’s post, or if one disagrees with that person’s motive, it can seem a little weird or awkward. Well, most of the time… awkward.
Also, with regards to Facebook, inactivity is the safe option. It should be a relief for some people that nobody can judge you for the content of your inexistent statuses. However, silence is a stance. Inactivity can show that you are not confident enough in yourself or in your beliefs to be able to share them, to some people at least.
On the other hand, some people say vulnerability comes with responsibility. For example, if you don’t want people unfriending you, your posts should have a purpose; if you don’t have a motive, or if you cannot defend your ideas with a good argument, then you shouldn’t be surprised when nobody likes it. If you make a post and you decide to delete it a few hours later because you did not get enough likes, then you did not have a good enough reason for making that post in the first place. You needed reassurance from others that your post was relevant or valuable. At least that’s what people say, heh.
So whenever you share something personal on Facebook, I guess it’s best if you think about why you are doing it. Are you doing it for the likes? Or are you doing it because you want to? I’d say don’t do it for the likes, because your privacy is worth more than that. If you have something to say, say it, make sure that you know what you are talking about. And if you don’t know what you are talking about, it is your responsibility to educate yourself before you criticize someone else's vulnerability.